Taking Care of ALL Your Bodies

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This is no halos here hosted by Jen Lang and Jane

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Stark, the place to inspire a change in your consciousness to

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elevate the world. We're to heart centered business owners

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nourishing our inner rebels while growing our respective

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businesses.

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No halos here is the result of bringing together an

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opera singer turn spiritual mentor and a marketing

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professional turned well being coached to meditate daily.

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Together, we unite physical, mental, emotional and spiritual

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energies into a powerful presence to lead, heal and

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inspire. We love exploring the shadowed edges of life, the

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universe and beyond through honest and thought provoking

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conversations. Let's dive in.

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Hi, everybody, and welcome back to another episode

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of no halos here with Jen Lang and Jane Stark. Today, it's a

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solo episode with me, Jen, and what Jane and I talked actually

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before I hit record, so she is still recovering from her

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illness. And if you listened to last week, last week's episode,

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we talked about the energy of January and how it is very much

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sort of an inward slower moving energy and self care type of

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energy, there's not a lot of momentum, at least, you know,

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generally speaking, you might be feeling quite differently

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yourself. But it's been interesting for Jane because

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she's been processing this illness. And she's working on

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like day 15 or 16. Now, and it's been quite a journey for her

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into the surrender aspect of that energy, and also trusting

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what her body's signals are. And we had planned this early this

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morning, we had planned to record this episode. And then as

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the morning went on, and we had a couple of meetings, a couple

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of conversations, we decided that she needed rest. And what I

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wanted to talk about today, was trusting those signals from your

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body when you need rest. This has come out of a couple of

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different conversations this week, as well. And we debated

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what to cover today in terms of, you know, content and what's

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helpful for you, our audience, and what's meaningful, and based

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on last week's episode, in terms of trusting the energy of the

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month, and not jumping in and leaping into something new for

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2022. It's around sitting in assessing where that energy is,

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and what are the feelings that are coming up that are asking

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for reflection? And what are the sensations in your body coming

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up that are asking for attention. So they could be

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something as simple as you get a good solid eight hours of sleep,

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and you wake up and you still you're tired. Or it could be

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something more complex where you know, you have achy joints, and

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then you have back pain, and you have some other like jaw pain.

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And this is your body literally talking to you and giving you

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signals of something that needs your attention. Another aspect

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of this that I want to address today is our physical body gives

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us signs and symbols and signals of what needs attention. But

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what often isn't clear is what that attention actually is, is

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it? Is it that your physical body needs attention? Or is

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there something going on in one of your other energy bodies, so

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whether it's your mental, emotional, spiritual energetic

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body, that is asking for attention, and quite often it's

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layered. So if you only address something in the physical realm

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than you and you haven't addressed it in the mental,

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emotional and spiritual fields, then that chances are that

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physical pain will come back in a different form or that

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physical discomfort or symptom will come back in a different

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form. The this is true for all of your energy layers and or all

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of the levels of your different bodies. So if you have an

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emotion come up that hasn't been processed, or that hasn't been

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dealt with or you've stuffed down inside, then chances are

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it's gonna show up in a different energy body like oh,

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maybe your physical as a stuck emotion our as a persistent pain

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or as a persistent physical symptom. It could be a digestive

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system, it could be a reproductive, it could be

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endocrine, hormonal, it could be breast pain. It's like a really

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discomfort it doesn't and it might not be big, either. It

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could just be like, oh, you know, I've always had this left

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ankle thing. Or maybe you fell on your left ankle, and the

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physical part is healed but the emotional wounding and mental

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and spiritual wounding of that experience has not yet been

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dealt with or transformed. So there I would ask you with this

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episode today, where are you holding on to things that you

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are ready to Let go of both physically, mentally,

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emotionally, spiritually in any other way. And then if you have

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let go or transformed something on the physical level, have you

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let go with it or transformed it on all of those other bodily,

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bodily three, all of those other energetic levels, whether it's

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physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual?

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And how do you do that? How, because you know, you can talk

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to a therapist and talk through some things. But if you are have

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been going to therapy for a while, and you've been well

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supported, if you've gone through a process, you know,

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might be very significant years of therapy, to process

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experiences. But if you haven't cleared them from the rest of

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your bodies, then all the talking in the world is not

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going to get you to where you need to be to stop or complete

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wrap up the therapy cycle. And if you maybe have been going to

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a chiropractor or physiotherapist for a persistent

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long term injury, but if you haven't dealt with it on a

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different energy body level, then you're going to continue to

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see that physiotherapist and that chiropractor or the

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alternate health practitioner for that thing, until you have

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resolved it in that other energy level, or the other bodily field

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or level. So do you see a repeating pattern or a theme

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here? Some of it, some of it is inherited from our social

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structures from the way we are raised. And in the conversation

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with Jane before I hit record, there, we had this moment of

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looking at, you know, aspects and practices of stoicism, that

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British colonists an attitude of stiff upper lip, don't let your

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emotions show stuff them down inside. It's especially that it

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can go as far as toxic masculinity where men aren't

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given a safe men and boys aren't given necessarily or haven't

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been given, some of them are, haven't been given a safe avenue

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to express emotion. And therefore it results in physical

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complications later on in life, or it might result in awkward

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partnerships or relationships later on in life. So all of this

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to say that what we have inherited from our both our

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ancestry and what is portrayed for us and our current social

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constructs, both in film, media, television, and to a certain

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extent in conversations, expectations of family doesn't

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always lead to a place of healing. In fact, I would say

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that it hampers or stifles the transformation that you might

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actually be seeking. And it operates on such an unconscious

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level that you might not even realize, realize it where it

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plays out on the mental level is in the words and the dialogue

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that you might have with yourself. And so I'd look at the

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difference between I am tired, versus I feel tired. So if you

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say you are tired, then you are perpetuating the pattern of

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fatigue. And you're taking on the fact that you are tired, and

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you are reinforcing that message in your mental brain. And then

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it's filtering through the rest of your body's energy bodies

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physical, mental, emotional, spiritual. If you say I feel

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tired, you may be white want to identify that even more fully

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saying My body feels tired today. However I feel mentally

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and emotionally alert and aware. This is why it's really helpful

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to have morning practices, or maybe midday check ins around

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all of these different areas of your life. So they have been a

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part of my spiritual practice my morning spiritual practice, I'd

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say for the past four years, where I check in with my

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physical and mental, emotional, spiritual bodies. And then I

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check in with the fifth like the quintessence I usually pull a

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card for that guidance, to check in with the higher self, the

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whole soul self. And when we start to break down that

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practice into the physical, mental, emotional spiritual, we

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are given the opportunity to really sit in presence with that

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aspect of self. So then when we sit with that aspect of self, we

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can start to get to know that aspect of self a little bit

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differently. And so what is my mental body saying today? Well,

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my mental, my mental self is quite alert. And I my ideas are

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on fire and I'm making lots of synaptic connections and I feel

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really excited about pulling together these seemingly

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unrelated threads into a coherent conversation to then be

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broadcast on this podcast. At the same time, my physical body

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feels a little bit tired today. However, I did have a great

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night's sleep. So my physical body doesn't feel like it's

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sore. Or like I can't do something. However, I have had

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other days where I felt more energized. So do you see when we

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get into this distinction? Oh, and actually I can reference

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this morning, I woke up and felt emotionally I felt inexplicably

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sad. And I didn't know what that sadness was about. I know, I

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just felt emotionally off. So when I checked in with my

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emotional self, I was like, Why am I feeling this sadness? So

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that led to a deeper reflection point around a choice I had made

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yesterday as decision I made a split second, to do a rehearsal

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to meet tomorrow. And I didn't feel I woke up this morning

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going, Why did I do that? Why don't I put that pressure on

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myself. And to that the emotional feeling of sadness

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was, that's what old Jen would have done. Old Jen would have

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tried to fit it in, tried to smash in crushing some rehearsal

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time to practice so that we'll be ready for tomorrow's meeting

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tomorrow's rehearsal in a more fulfilled way. However, when I'm

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practicing that, then I'm practicing those feelings into

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the music and into that experience, so that when I

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perform it, I'm performing with that underlying pressure, rather

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than coming at the music from a place of spaciousness and joy,

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and expansiveness. So do you see how checking in with each of

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these bodies can lead us to better decision making on a day

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to day basis. So based on that realization, I had this morning,

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this sadness, I was feeling identified, it identified why I

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took action. And I said, Actually, I can't meet tomorrow

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is there another date and time and we agreed on a different

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date and time, that gives me lots of spaciousness and time to

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approach the music from a place of meaningfulness. So this

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spaciousness place is really where we want to approach so

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much of our lives from. And when we are constantly busy, or

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ignoring or numbing or scrolling, or doing all the

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things, all the activities that keep us from actually looking at

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all of those different aspects of self, then we do ourselves a

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disservice. And we actually, we, when we, and when we shift that

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behavior, to looking into aspects of self, more completely

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than sometimes it's surface, sometimes it's like, my body

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feels great today. And thanks very much, I'm going to do some

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yoga, and I'm gonna go for a run and you know, whatever. But

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sometimes being granular in looking at each of those aspects

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of self, the physical, the mental, the emotional, the

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spiritual, and the overall spiritual, that Quintessence

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self, then we are able to be more in tune, then we can make

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better decisions on a day to day basis that actually serve the

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development on the spaciousness and the expansiveness of self.

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So, yes, meditation is great. And yes, physical exercise is

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wonderful. And I would argue that this time, and literally,

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this takes me five minutes, it doesn't even take that long, on

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a daily basis, setting aside that five minutes to check in

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with the self and go, Oh, I can make this decision today based

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on that. And I can make this decision today based on that. In

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valuable, you'll live your life from a more aligned place,

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you'll find it easier to move through your day, because you've

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made decisions in alignment with where you're at.

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Now, if you're stuck in a pattern, I want to address this

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briefly. If you're stuck in a pattern of say, fatigue, and

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tiredness, and say you're tired all the time, and you wake up

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feeling tired. Well, if you're telling yourself that every day,

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then you're going to perpetuate that pattern and that rhythm

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every day. So maybe you decide tomorrow to wake up and say

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something different to yourself and say, Okay, I acknowledge

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that I have been feeling tired. However, I'm doing all the

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things I knew I need to do to be rested. I am taking care of

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myself. And today I feel a bit more energy than I have in the

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past and start to shift the dialogue around I'm always

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tired. I'm always tired. I'm always tired, too. I'm getting

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better. I feel more energy. And it doesn't have to be you go

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from the bottom of the ladder to the top of the ladder and one

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day, it might be one step at a time. So then the next day you

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wake up and say Hmm, wow, you know, I had a really busy day

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yesterday, but today I feel rested and ready for the day.

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And the next day might be oh, you know I had An awesome day

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yesterday and building on the energy of the last couple of

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days, I'm feeling ready to approach my day with joy, and

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with more gratitude than I have in the past. And yeah, my, my

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feet might feel a little bit tired. But that's just my eyes,

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the rest of me feels great. So you see when we start to refine

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and pull in and observe more accurately or more, with more

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detail, the aspects of self, how that can lead to better decision

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making, and then it changes the pattern that you might be stuck

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in. Okay, I'm gonna leave it here. However, if you want to

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dive into this more for yourself, Jane and I have an

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awesome tool called the empowerment playbook. I'll put

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the link in the show notes. But it is available I believe the

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link is we are Jen and jane.com. Forward slash empowerment

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playbook, or actually, I think just Ford slash playbook. I'll

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double check the show notes for that. The other thing I wanted

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to share with you is this is going out on Tuesday, the 18th.

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If you want to talk about this a little bit more, and actually

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meet us face to face. We have a community call on Wednesday, the

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19th at noon, Pacific Time, that is 3pm, Eastern and 8pm in the

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UK. And if you want to talk about some aspects of these

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things, then you're invited to the call. And all you need to do

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is actually just download the empowerment playbook. And you'll

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get the reminder emails and the link to join the call. So we

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hope to see you there. And yeah, we're also working on some

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really cool projects. I'm going to drop a few nuggets here more

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details will be forthcoming. We are opening a small group

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program over a six week period, we start the second week of

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February and it's called fierce serenity. So how can you

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approach these aspects of self with both fierce fierceness, a

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fierceness of energy, but also the serenity of surrender. So

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finding that balance point, if you are curious and want to know

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more, definitely keep listening to the podcast and follow us on

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our social channels. Because we will be sharing more about pure

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serenity there is a beta program, it's going to be a very

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approachable price point. So if you have any concerns about

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that, let me know. I'll also be talking about it on the

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community call on the 19th. So definitely join us tomorrow for

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the community call with we are Jen and Jane. And on that note,

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have an amazing rest of your week. Listen and tune in to all

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your different energy bodies aspects of self. And we'd love

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to hear from you anytime. Take care. Bye. Thanks for joining us

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for these conscious combos. If you're ready to dive deeper head

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on over to we are Jen and jane.com to continue the

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conversation.

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